Lately, my husband has had to work long hours at work. This means that I have to do even more for my boys. Of course, I love my boys and would do anything for them. However, after working all day, to come home and have to do everything by myself gets to be too much. At first, I just did it…all of it. Then, I let anger settle in. That was a mistake. I started resenting my husband. All that did was make me miserable. He still wasn’t home, I was still doing the vast majority of the work, and now I was in a bad mood. After about a week of that, I found a book entitled “Married Mom, Solo Parent: Finding God’s Strength to Face the Challenge” by Carla Anne Coroy. Find it here (This is an affiliate link, which means I earn a small commission at no extra cost to you). The book made me realize that I wasn’t alone. Many women have the task of caring for the family while the husband is working. Sometimes just knowing that others are in the same boat that you are helps the task not seem so big. One of the things that she emphasizes in the book is to pray. Bless your spouse even when you think you are being taken for grant. Another important concept was to guard your heart and mind. When you are not able to spend time with your spouse like you want, sometimes you may seek the attention of other males. No one intends on having an affair, it happens slowly. Sometimes affairs are more emotional than physical. In either form, they are still wrong.
So, in case you were wondering, yes my husband is STILL working long hours at least a couple of days a week. Just last week, my three year old proudly proclaimed that “daddy doesn’t live with us, he lives at work”. That statement was sad, but comical. Sad because I know he is missing his daddy, but it has been reality lately. I am scheduled to work 35 hours per week, often I work more. One of the best things about getting off of work is getting my boys. Seeing their excitement is the best part of my day. I will continue to do all that I can to care for them, I will pray and bless my husband, and I will be careful to guard my heart.